QUOTE (jummy @ Oct 20 2007, 02:42 AM)

Does anyone know what I can do if my host isn't willing/able to help me?
Get a new host?
That's not entirely a joke.
But anyway. It's highly unlikely you'd be able to install anything yourself that would let you run those commands. Is it not an option to just upgrade the database to MySQL? Unless you plan on using 3.2 forever, you're probably going to have to do this eventually; Berkeley isn't supported as of 4.0, and was largely disrecommended even before that.